I don’t know about everyone, but my ex’s are CRAZY!
Yesterday, an ex, we’ll call him Weasel, hit me up out of the blue. Weasel (who’s parents are/were racists while we were together) sends me a facebook message asking me if Black History Month (BHM) was really necessary.
I ask him why he would ask me such a question and he replies:
Weasel: Cause I think you’ll actually give me constructive feedback where as other people give me the same old “white people have the rest of the year!” BS.
Samantha: Nope, I celebrate it like a national holiday.
Weasel: Didn’t it serve it’s purpose?
*Wow.., Can’t believe I dated him. He claims to understand the black struggle because he was the minority for a year or two in high school. SMH*
So, initially, I’m fuming! I’m not generally hung up on race. It would have been stupid to get mad every time someone said something racist to me (I am from Warrensburg, Missouri after all), but when it is someone that is supposed to “love” you (which he claims to do), then it really does strike an emotion.
I explain to him the many reason BHM is important, my main reasons being because it is generally the only time young people get to learn about black culture. It’s equally important for young people of every race to hear about it. We all know it doesn’t make up a lot of the curriculum.
I went on to explain to him that he needs quickly revise his train of thought because even though he has what I call “bigot tendencies” he is still only attracted to black women. He always has these little racist comments. For example… I just recently cut all my hair off and went natural. He says.. “you should go back straight because i like good hair!!” insinuating that the natural curls that (are quite soft by the way) grow from my head are BAD hair! (Thats why black women have f’ed up self images.)
Someday, he may very well find himself as the father of some biracial children and he’s going to have to fully nurture both parts of that child’s culture. There are a lot of young biracial children out there who have terribly low self-esteem because there is no one to teach them better. If the parent has no respect for the other half of their DNA, than the child will learn to resent the black and visa versa. Children can’t be raised thinking that they are less than because they are mixed.
He completely brushes past all of that to give me some more B.S.
Weasel: What about the Asians? They were treated badly too.
Samantha: Yes they were. There is Asian American Month just like there is Mexican American Month.
Why would he want to have this conversation with me?